Now that it’s New Year’s eve and I won’t be celebrating at a friend’s house as usual because I’m sick this year, I’ll list my goals for 2014. They’re not boring, I promise. If you have the same goals or want to share your own, feel free to comment below!
1. Get more humanitarian. Okay, bad grammar aside, I want to get involved in social work, i.e. helping out in soup kitchens, advocating women’s rights & LGBTQ rights, as well as little acts of kindness such as picking up change somebody dropped and handing it back to them, or giving up my bus seat to the elderly or those who need it more than I do.
2. Get healthy. This includes physical and emotional health. 2013 has been a bad year for both my health needs, and I can definitely help myself by taking more walks outside if the gym is too far to go to, and go to those counseling sessions. Mental health is just as important as physical health.
3. Don’t be afraid to push yourself. I’m a college student that surprisingly hasn’t pulled an all-nighter yet… perhaps due to good study habits and also due to being unable to stay up past 2AM. I’m kind of proud of my healthy sleeping habits, but I can be more careful when editing my essays and get them done earlier. I can be more assertive in job interviews and even as an introvert, push myself to talk more often in classes and give talks on the importance of mental health, as well as other issues dear to me. I can also practice driving more, as it’s a bit pathetic having to drive around with a parent next to you when you have a license already but not enough practice (so my parents think) to hit the road by myself.
4. Don’t keep everything bottled in. But be aware of who you’re telling your secrets to, so you know you’ll get the right support and advice that’s both meaningful and necessary.
5. Slow down and spend time for yourself. When I was younger, I would always say ‘yes’ to things and still have a tendency to do so. This includes hanging out with friends to accompanying a violinist on the piano even when I have no actual will to do so. Saying ‘no’ is powerful and I will say it more often and put myself first, because sometimes I need to. And no, it’s not selfish if it’s healthy and feels right for myself.
6. Don’t be wasteful. This includes money, food, clothing, whatever. Buy, eat, (insert verb here) what you need and refuse what you don’t need. You can save yourself a few extra dollars that can always come in handy later.
7. Say what you need to say. [I posted about this, and you can read it here: https://classyasfemme.wordpress.com/2013/12/13/listening/ ]
8. Hang out with people you love, separate yourself from those whose presence isn’t beneficial to you for whatever reason. This can be hard, especially when there’s a good friend involved who is doing something shady but is otherwise a good person. I have one (alright, more than one) of those friends. This is also related to saying no, but if that friend continues doing their shady business which might be affecting the friendship, it may be time to reevaluate the friendship. A break from some people in your life is completely normal and healthy. Who knows, maybe the break will be just what the other party needs to realize something they are doing is wrong and they need you back in their life! if not, then you’re probably better off without them.
Raise your glasses for that sparkling cider or champagne if you’re of age…here’s to a new year!!! Best wishes & Cheers :]